For the brief time that I posted my last blog on Daily Kos, it got an overwhelmingly negative response. But that’s not why I wound up deleting it over there.
I almost never delete anything once I’ve written it. I only did that one time on this blog, several years ago. That deletion was done in a moment of fury after I let a troll get to me, but more level heads convinced me to republish it a few hours later. That aberration aside, I stand by my work, even if I change my mind over time. They’re my words and I’m happy to be accountable for them.
And frankly, I expected static over at Kos. It’s not cool to suggest that you’re with Obama (or, seemingly, with anyone, ever), or even to suggest he’ll win in a piece largely absent of personal preferences. That all-woe-all-the-time attitude seems to be the line at most liberal-leaning websites, which is why I’m not a fixture at any of them.
What I didn’t expect was that my disliking of a couple of comments was going to cause such a shitstorm. That’s my fault, I guess. I should have known the Kos protocol (though in my defense, I’ve never used that feature on a site with limits). What I didn’t expect was a handful of comments I got that would seem to cancel out any transgression of mine. Here's the one that started it all:
It seems the troll wouldn’t be the writer, but the hostile jerk who dishes it out but can’t take it. (In all fairness, and cut out due to size, was a comment underneath that said, "As are retaliatory HRs.")
Then there was this, where someone had taken exception to my dislike of unproductive, critical comments (like their first snide comment):
Really? No excuse? I have “no excuse” to not wear a condom. I’ve written five diaries in five years. I never comment on anything, except here when I’m being attacked. Do they know loopholes in the rule, and is that why I alone am being cited? No double standard here!
But yeah, I'm shivering in my shoes over here. Nothing would spell death to my career like not being able to recommend/hide comments on a website.
Don't bother. I know where I'm not welcome. The sad thing is, you think this is my loss.
I post to Daily Kos in an attempt to reach a wider audience. But this being the case, I will no longer do so. I’ve always respected the site, and my past experiences there have been positive. I would never stop posting there because of criticism, but I refuse to bend to a double standard when it comes to comments.
I can be intellectual, funny, angry, sarcastic or snarky when the situation calls for it. If I have to watch what I say to that severe of a degree, especially given the hypocrisy, I’ll go elsewhere. I have plenty of people willing to criticize me for my views without adding a group of hostile liberal rule-grinds to the mix.
And yes, I know I’ve banned a couple of commenters here. But it took WAY more than that (as in, five years of constant personal attacks). And I don’t project the sins of the past onto new commenters. That may be why I blog here, in relative obscurity, as opposed to higher-profile forum. I don’t want a pissing match over site moderation (at least, not for being as tame as I am). If I can’t have a hearty discussion, then at least I can blog on my own terms. And I invite any of those commenters here, assuming they have something to say other than all the ways I’m a terrible person.
And to think, all of this started because I said Obama has the best chance of winning in 2012. Controversy!