Wednesday, September 15, 2010

Men behaving badly

Meet Ines Sainz. She's the Mexican reporter who members of the New York Jets reportedly sexually harassed as she conducted interviews in their locker room. She was dressed in that at the time, which is apparently supposed to be relevant.

She is insanely attractive, and she doesn't need to vaporize into those jeans for that to be clear. Many TV reporters often play up their looks, which is understandable in a visual medium always fighting for ratings. She also seems to be proficient at interviewing, so she's got that going for her as well.

All the hooting and hollering she allegedly endured raises a long-running question in the battle of the sexes: who is to blame and what could be done? Some would say the players' conduct is disgusting. Others say she took that risk walking into a room full of sweaty, underdressed guys and shouldn't be surprised.

Sexual harassment is always a reprehensible thing, and even more so in the workplace. And when a reporter is talking to football players in the locker room, by definition both are working. It's up to both sides to conduct themselves in the most professional manner possible. There's simply no excuse for the ogling on any level, but especially not for pro athletes who should be well aware at this point in their careers that they are going to encounter women where they dress.

As far as the age-old question of who shoulders the blame in these situations, the man or the woman, this particular situation is a slam dunk. This is entirely the fault of the guys. I don't buy the notion that Ines shouldn't have been wearing those jeans, or that she otherwise was asking for it. How boorish is that? "Well, it's not my fault she dresses like that." Maybe not, but it's your fault for totally losing your marbles over it right in front of her. Anyway, she isn't even dressed all that provocatively, so that reflects even more poorly on the alleged offenders. And even if they were kidding or meant it as a compliment, she ultimately found it uncomfortable, which means it should have ended as soon as that became clear. It's in their best interest as well as hers.

I don't care if it's a locker room, a club or a monastery: there's no excuse for a guy to turn feral just because a woman wears tight pants. She deserves to be treated like a person and a professional. She has a job to do. And feelings. Oh yeah, and she has the ability to communicate to a wide audience what an unrestrained tool you are, doing nothing to dispel the notion of us guys as walking libidos who can't be trusted around attractive women. 



Jester said...

When you said, "so she's got that going for her as well", my one-track mind automatically read it as "so she's got that going for her ASS well" & I thought "Whuuuu?" I guess I had only one eye on the text and the other glued to the awesome picture :D

Seriously, though, one-track mind or not, I'm in total agreement with you. Self-control (sexual or otherwise) should never take a backseat to RESPECT. Women should be allowed to wear anything they want anywhere they are (which is one of the main issues I have against Sharia law). We aren't cavemen (or cavewomen) anymore for crying out loud.

On a personal note, if I didn't have the utmost care and respect for women I simply would not be able to work even one day in my chosen profession. Girl power!

rhonda said...
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rhonda said...

i don't like the "she was asking for it" attitude any more than i appreciate the huffy girl who snaps at people for not looking at her eyes when she's wearing a shirt that's cut down to her navel. i shouldn't have to wear a burqa in order to be treated with respect, but i also wouldn't fault anyone who's respectfully admiring me when i'm wearing something that shows off the year of running that i've been doing- key word is RESPECTFULLY.

for the record, that reporter's outfit is cute. anyone who acted like an ass and tried to blame a pair of jeans is just that- an ass.

venessalewis said...

Hmm. I think your heart and general idea is in the right place so kudos on that. Not sure this is the particular case I'd choose to do battle on for sexual harassment and women's rights in the workplace. I look at her and roll my eyes.